Ellen Lindsey, LCSW
It's a tricky business, this therapy thing. The secret is that we counselors aren't as much in the business of helping you feel better, as we are in the business of
helping you to better feel.
Born and raised in Austin, Texas. For real. I'm kind of proud of that. Honestly, I'm really proud of that. Being proud of where you come from is a curious thing. I get curious about those sorts of things. Isn't it interesting to consider what we're proud of? Or, what we're ashamed of? Or, what we secretly long for? I find all of that truly fascinating.
That is one of the reasons that being a counselor is such a good match for me. I'm curious about what makes us tick. I'm curious about our stories and what is meaningful to us. I'm curious about our internal worlds as well as our external lives. It is very interesting for me to discover things about people, and to make new connections about them, and to determine and teach new skills that help them do their lives in a more peaceful, or joyful, or efficient way.
What I can offer you is openness, honesty, expertise, and a soft-place to land. I know myself well and I will help you to know yourself better and love yourself and your world more readily. I can also offer many effective tricks-of-the-trade that, when applied, can reduce your distress and expand your flexibility, your understanding, your patience and your heart. That can translate into an experience of moving through your emotions instead of getting stuck in them.
I tune-in in a very deep way, which is another reason why being a therapist feels so natural. When I'm in the room with someone, that someone has my full attention, my unwavering interest and my wide-open heart. The truth for me is that therapy is in great part about learning to love well; it's about learning to love yourself and others in deeper, more consistent ways. To love well encompasses being accepting, being accountable, being aware, being compassionate, and being true to ourselves and others. It requires that we are flexible, attentive, open-hearted, and conscious. Is this what you're looking for? If not, I'm guessing you are looking for solutions to problems. Problem-solving is a worthy endeavor and goes on in my therapy office a lot. The thing is, if we learn all the flexible, attentive, open stuff, we are much, much, much more effective in crafting workable solutions.
But I digress. My approach to therapy is on a different page. This part is supposed to be about me. What else can I tell you? I'm a warm and engaging type, with a big smile and a ready laugh, even in the counseling room. I've got solid boundaries with an open nature. That means that others don't have to guess about what my needs or my limits are. I'm clear about those and I can gently or strongly communicate them. Being open means that I'm sensitive to others' needs and limits and honor them in same way. I'm proud of all of that, too.
I've been counseling since 2002, and as I proceed through a second decade of practice, I'm also heading into a next phase of my own life. I've been married, I've been divorced, I've raised two genuinely precious children, and my nest is almost empty. I've gone to school, I've been a stay-at-home mom, I've had deeply meaningful friendships, I've run a business, and I currently co-own and co-direct a second successful one. (Somewhere in those years, I even launched a web-based business that did not thrive.) My parents are turning 80 this year. I have had the sincere honor of working with many clients throughout these years and, as they've grown, I've grown as well. It is likely that, if you and I work together, we will have some common ground. And it is definite that you will have much to teach me. Read more here to find out what therapy is like with me.